Read the entry note first. Not a fable — an Anishinaabe ontology carried as story. Come in to wonder.
⚠️ Draft — under many eyes. Converted and readable; not yet finally vetted, and it will wear the word draft for a good while, on purpose. Living, not final.
54. NÄNABUSHU MARRIES.
Nanabushu Marries
Narrated by Penessi — Series 7 (Nos. 44–56), Fort William (per Michelson’s roster, Part I Preface p. XX; not credited on the story page itself).
from Ojibwa Texts collected by William Jones (1917).
(1) Ānīc, ningudingsa kīⁿwäⁿ Nänabucu kībabimusä pạbāmādisit, wīnä‘tagu nici‘kä.
Aaniish, ningoding sa giiwenh Nenaboozhoo gii-babimose babaamaadizid, wiin eta go nishike.
Well, once on a time they say Nänabushu went walking along, travelling from place to place, and all alone.
Aaniish, ningoding sa giiwenh (well, once upon a time, they say) Nenaboozhoo gii-babimose (Nenaboozhoo went walking along) babaamaadizid (travelling about from place to place), wiin eta go nishike (he all alone by himself).
(2) Käga‘pī ninguding ạnicinābäᵉ odōtisān; imā dạc ayāwāt īgi’ᵘ anicinābäᵉg u‘pimäya∙ī∙ dạc imā owâbandān wīgiwāmäns ayānik.
Gegapii ningoding anishinaaben odoodisaan; imaa dash ayaawaad igiw anishinaabeg opimeya’ii dash imaa owaabandaan wiigiwaamens ayaanig.
Then in due course of time to where some people were he came; now, off at one side of where the people were, he saw a small wigwam standing. (1)
Gegapii ningoding (then at last, one time) anishinaaben odoodisaan (he came upon some people); imaa dash ayaawaad igiw anishinaabeg (and there where those people were) opimeya’ii dash imaa (off at one side there) owaabandaan wiigiwaamens ayaanig (he saw a little wigwam standing).
(3) Mīdạc kā∙i∙jināⁿzi‘kạng, kīta‘pābi dạc ickwāndänk; i‘kwäwạn owâbamān nạmadạbinit.
Mii dash gaa-izhi-naazikang, gii-dapaabi dash ishkwaandeng; ikwewan owaabamaan namadabinid.
Accordingly, when he went up to it, he peeped in at the entry-way; a woman he saw seated there.
Mii dash gaa-izhi-naazikang (and so, when he went up to it), gii-dapaabi dash ishkwaandeng (he peeped in at the doorway); ikwewan owaabamaan namadabinid (a woman he saw sitting there).
(4) Kāwīn kạnagä pīnābisīwạn; a‘pī∙i∙dạc kä‘känimigut mīkạnōnigut: “Kägu intawā pīndikä‘kän,” udigōn; “undcita omāⁿ nijikä nindaiyā,” udigōn.
Gaawiin ganage bi-inaabisiiwan; apii idash gekenimigod mii ganoonigod: “Gego indawaa biindigeken,” odigoon; “onjida omaa nishike nindayaa,” odigoon.
Not even did she glance up at him; and when his presence became known, then was he spoken to (in these words): “Do not enter in, I pray,” he was told; “especially since I am here alone,” (2) he was told.
Gaawiin ganage bi-inaabisiiwan (not at all did she even glance up); apii idash gekenimigod (and when she became aware of him) mii ganoonigod (then she spoke to him): “Gego indawaa biindigeken,” (“do not come in, please,”) odigoon (she said to him); “onjida omaa nishike nindayaa,” (“especially since I am here alone,”) odigoon (she told him).
(5) “Mānu, ningapīndigä!” udinān.
“Maanoo, ninga-piindige!” odinaan.
“Please let me come in!” he said to her.
“Maanoo, ninga-piindige!” (“please, let me come in!”) odinaan (he said to her).
(6) “Kägo pīndikä‘kän,” udigōn.
“Gego biindigeken,” odigoon.
“Do not come in,” he was told.
“Gego biindigeken,” (“do not come in,”) odigoon (she told him).
(7) “Kāwīn awiya omāⁿ tapīndikäsī.”
“Gaawiin awiya omaa da-piindigesii.”
“Nobody is allowed to enter here.”
“Gaawiin awiya omaa da-piindigesii.” (“no one may come in here.”)
(8) Kāwīn kạnagä pī∙u∙ndci∙i∙nābisīwạn.
Gaawiin ganage bi-onji-inaabisiiwan.
Not even did she look up (at him) from where she was.
Gaawiin ganage bi-onji-inaabisiiwan (not at all did she even look up from where she was).
(9) Nänabucū dạc ā‘pidci inändạm wī‘pīndigät, mīdạc kā∙i∙jipīndigät; mī kīⁿwäⁿ awi‘kwä äji∙ā∙‘pidcinawạgi‘kwänit.
Nenaboozhoo dash aapiji inendam wii-piindiged, mii dash gaa-izhi-piindiged; mii giiwenh aw ikwe ezhi-aapiji-nawagikwenid.
Now, Nänabushu was very keen to enter, whereupon he then went in; then they say the woman bowed her head, holding it very low.
Nenaboozhoo dash aapiji inendam wii-piindiged (now Nenaboozhoo was very set on going in), mii dash gaa-izhi-piindiged (and so he then went in); mii giiwenh aw ikwe (then, they say, that woman) ezhi-aapiji-nawagikwenid (bowed her head down very low).
(10) Pānimā dạc wayābạnk kigīcäp pitạgwicinōn ogīn ‘aᵉa’wi‘kwä pi∙ạ∙cạmigut; pā‘täniwīyās pātōd aᵘ mindimōyä, mī∙i’∙ᵘ kā∙ạ∙camāt udānisạn.
Baanimaa dash wayaabang gigizheb bi-dagwishinoon ogiin a’aw ikwe bi-ashamigod; baateni wiiyaas baadood aw mindimooye, mii iw gaa-ashamaad odaanisan.
Now, by and by on the morrow, during the morning, hither came the mother of the woman, bringing food to feed her (daughter); dried meat was what the old woman fetched, and with that she fed her daughter.
Baanimaa dash wayaabang gigizheb (then later, the next day in the morning) bi-dagwishinoon ogiin a’aw ikwe (the woman’s mother came hither) bi-ashamigod (to feed her); baateni wiiyaas baadood aw mindimooye (plenty of dried meat the old woman fetched), mii iw gaa-ashamaad odaanisan (and with that she fed her daughter).
(11) Nänabucū dạc ogạnōnān īni’ᵘ mindimōyäyạn: “Kāwīnina nintāwīdigämāsī ‘aᵉa’ᵘ kitānis?”
Nenaboozhoo dash oganoonaan iniw mindimooyeyan: “Gaawiin ina nindaa-wiidigemaasii a’aw gi-daanis?”
Now, Nänabushu spoke to the old woman, saying: “May I not marry your daughter?”
Nenaboozhoo dash oganoonaan iniw mindimooyeyan (now Nenaboozhoo spoke to that old woman): “Gaawiin ina nindaa-wiidigemaasii a’aw gi-daanis?” (“may I not marry that daughter of yours?”)
(12) “Nîyā,” i‘kitu ‘aᵘ mindimoyä; “mägwā kuca mạnidō∙u∙i!
“Niyaa,” ikido aw mindimoye; “megwaa gosha manidoowi!
“Dear me!” said the old woman; “why, she is now in the condition of a manitou! (3)
“Niyaa,” ikido aw mindimoye (“dear me!” said the old woman); “megwaa gosha manidoowi! (“why, she is right now in the condition of a manitou!)
(13) Kayä dạc kāwīn tibänindisusī, ōsạn udibänimigōn.
Gaye dash gaawiin dibenindizosii, oosan odibenimigoon.
And she is not at liberty yet to act for herself, under her father’s control is she still.
Gaye dash gaawiin dibenindizosii (and besides, she is not her own master), oosan odibenimigoon (by her father is she still ruled).
(14) Ningawīndamawā ‘aᵘ a‘kiwäⁿzī.”
Ninga-wiindamawaa aw akiwenzii.”
I will tell the old man about it.” (4)
Ninga-wiindamawaa aw akiwenzii.” (“I will tell the old man about it.”)
(15) “Ānīc, mānōsa’. Mīnawā na‘kawä ningabạbāmādi’s.
“Aaniish, maanoo sa. Miinawaa nakawe ninga-babaamaadis.
“Well, all right. For another while will I wander about.
“Aaniish, maanoo sa. (“well, all right then.) Miinawaa nakawe ninga-babaamaadis. (and for a while yet I will wander about.)
(16) Kīnicwāsugunaga‘k ningatạgwicin, mī∙i’∙ᵘ tcibinandu ki‘kändạmān kädi‘kitogwän aᵘ a‘kiwäⁿzi.”
Gii-niizhwaasogonagak ninga-dagwishin, mii iw ji-bi-nando-gikendamaan ged-ikidogwen aw akiwenzi.”
At the end of seven days I will return, then will I come to learn what the old man shall say.”
Gii-niizhwaasogonagak ninga-dagwishin (when seven days have passed I will return), mii iw ji-bi-nando-gikendamaan (then I will come to find out) ged-ikidogwen aw akiwenzi.” (whatever the old man may say.”)
(17) Mīdạc kā∙i∙jimādcāt Nänabucū kīpabāmādisit nō‘piming; ạnōdci kägōn ubabāni‘tōn mādcit.
Mii dash gaa-izhi-maajaad Nenaboozhoo gii-pabaamaadizid noopiming; anooji gegoon obabaa-nitoon maajid.
Thereupon departed Nänabushu, travelling from place to place inland; all sorts of things he killed to eat during his wandering.
Mii dash gaa-izhi-maajaad Nenaboozhoo (and so Nenaboozhoo set out) gii-pabaamaadizid noopiming (wandering about inland); anooji gegoon obabaa-nitoon maajid (all sorts of things he killed along his way).
(18) A‘pī∙i∙dạc äninicwāsugunagạtinig mī∙i’∙ᵘ cigwa icāt, ạnōtc awäsīyänsaᵉ udạnimādcīnāᵉ.
Apii idash eni-niizhwaasogonagadinig mii iw zhigwa izhaad, anooj awesiiyensan odani-maajiinaan.
And when the seventh day was drawing on, then thither he went.
Apii idash eni-niizhwaasogonagadinig (and when the seventh day was coming on) mii iw zhigwa izhaad (then now he went), anooj awesiiyensan odani-maajiinaan (all kinds of little game animals he took along).
(19) A‘pī∙i∙dạc äni∙u∙di‘tạng iwä wīgiwāmäns owâbạndān, wäwäni pīnictcigādänig.
Apii idash eni-oditang iwe wiigiwaamens owaabandaan, weweni biinichigaadenig.
And when he got up to the small wigwam (5), he saw that it was all set in neat order.
Apii idash eni-oditang iwe wiigiwaamens (and when he reached that little wigwam) owaabandaan (he saw it), weweni biinichigaadenig (all neatly tidied up).
(20) A‘pī∙i∙dac tä‘pābạndạnk iwä wīgiwāmäns, ubiganawābạmigōn īni’ᵘ i‘kwäwạn.
Apii idash depaabandang iwe wiigiwaamens, obi-ganawaabamigoon iniw ikwewan.
And when he peeped into the small wigwam, he was met with an expectant look from the woman.
Apii idash depaabandang iwe wiigiwaamens (and when he peeped into that little wigwam), obi-ganawaabamigoon iniw ikwewan (he was looked upon by that woman).
(21) “Ānīc, kitāpīndigä,” udigōn.
“Aaniish, gidaa-piindige,” odigoon.
“Well, you may come in,” he was told.
“Aaniish, gidaa-piindige,” (“well, you may come in,”) odigoon (she told him).
(22) Mī∙i∙dạc ‘aᵉa’wi‘kwä agwạtcing kī∙i∙jā; mīdạc wâbạndạnk Nänabucō ubimiwạnān, wīyās ä‘tänig, mizisäᵉ kayä pinäwaᵉ kayä.
Mii dash a’aw ikwe agwajing gii-izhaa; mii dash waabandang Nenaboozhoo obimiwanaan, wiiyaas etenig, mizisen gaye binewan gaye.
Thereupon the woman went out of doors; and so, when she saw Nänabushu’s pack, meat was therein, besides turkeys and ruffed grouse.
Mii dash a’aw ikwe agwajing gii-izhaa (then that woman went outside); mii dash waabandang Nenaboozhoo obimiwanaan (and when she saw Nenaboozhoo’s pack), wiiyaas etenig (meat was in it), mizisen gaye binewan gaye (turkeys too and ruffed grouse too).
(23) Mīdạc awi‘kwä kā∙i∙jitcībā‘kwät, mīdạc ä‘kitut: “Ningatawinạndumāk ninīngī∙i∙gōg.”
Mii dash aw ikwe gaa-izhi-jiibaakwed, mii dash ekidod: “Ningad-awi-nandomaag ni-niigi’igoog.”
And so when the woman had cooked a meal, she then said: “I will go ask my parents to come.”
Mii dash aw ikwe gaa-izhi-jiibaakwed (and so when that woman had cooked), mii dash ekidod (then she said): “Ningad-awi-nandomaag ni-niigi’igoog.” (“I will go invite my parents.”)
(24) Mī kā∙i∙jimādcāt ‘awi‘kwä, ugī∙a∙winạndumān ōsạn ugīn kayä.
Mii gaa-izhi-maajaad aw ikwe, ogii-awi-nandomaan oosan ogiin gaye.
Accordingly then departed the woman; she went to invite her father and mother.
Mii gaa-izhi-maajaad aw ikwe (and so that woman set out), ogii-awi-nandomaan oosan ogiin gaye (she went to invite her father and her mother too).
(25) Nīngānidạc kī‘pitạgwicin awi‘kwä.
Niigaan idash gii-pi-dagwishin aw ikwe.
Before (their arrival), back home had come the woman. (6)
Niigaan idash gii-pi-dagwishin aw ikwe (and beforehand that woman had come back home).
(26) A‘pī∙i∙dac tägucinuwāt īgiwä ki‘tci∙ạ∙nicinābäᵉg, owâbạmāwān Nänabucōn nạmạdạbinit agāmindäsīng.
Apii idash degoshinowaad igiwe gichi-anishinaabeg, owaabamaawaan Nenaboozhoon namadabinid agaamindesing.
Now, when the old folks arrived, they saw Nänabushu seated in the space behind the fire. (7)
Apii idash degoshinowaad igiwe gichi-anishinaabeg (and when those elders arrived), owaabamaawaan Nenaboozhoon namadabinid agaamindesing (they saw Nenaboozhoo sitting in the place behind the fire).
(27) Mīdạc ä‘kitut awä a‘kiwäⁿzi: “Ānīc, Nänabucū, ningīwīndạmāgō ‘iᵉiᵘ kā∙i∙‘kituwạnän änänimāwạtän ‘aᵉa’wi nindānisinān.
Mii dash ekidod awe akiwenzi: “Aaniish, Nenaboozhoo, ningii-wiindamaagoo i’iw gaa-ikidowanen e-nenimaawaaden a’awi nin-daanisinaan.
Thereupon said the old man: “Well, Nänabushu, I have been told what you said concerning the way you feel about this daughter of ours.
Mii dash ekidod awe akiwenzi (then that old man said): “Aaniish, Nenaboozhoo, (“well, Nenaboozhoo,) ningii-wiindamaagoo i’iw gaa-ikidowanen (I have been told what you said) e-nenimaawaaden a’awi nin-daanisinaan. (about how you feel toward this daughter of ours.)
(28) Kāwīn ā‘pidci kägōn uni‘tāwitōsīn, nōndäsi.”
Gaawiin aapiji gegoon onitaawidoosiin noondezi,”
She is not very smart at doing things, she is dull.” (8)
Gaawiin aapiji gegoon onitaawidoosiin (she is not very skilled at doing things) noondezi,” (she falls short,”)
(29) Wäwäni ugīwīndạmawān īni’ᵘ Nänabucōn.
Weweni ogii-wiindamawaan iniw Nenaboozhoon.
He was careful to tell Nänabushu about her.
Weweni ogii-wiindamawaan iniw Nenaboozhoon (carefully he told Nenaboozhoo about her).
(30) “Kīcpîn dạc ānawänimāsiwạt, mānōsa’ intawā kitāwīdcīwā.”
“Giishpin dash aanawenimaasiwad, maanoo sa indawaa gidaa-wiijiiwaa.”
“So if you are not disinclined to taking her, why, you may then marry her.” (9)
“Giishpin dash aanawenimaasiwad (“and so if you do not think her unworthy), maanoo sa indawaa gidaa-wiijiiwaa.” (well then, you may take her to live with you.”)
(31) Mīdạc kā∙i∙cipạsigwīt ‘aᵉa’ᵘ a‘kiwäⁿzi ōgīsạgini‘känān udānisạn, Nänabucōndạc namadạpinit ogī∙u∙nạbi∙ā∙n.
Mii dash gaa-izhi-pazigwiid a’aw akiwenzii ogii-saginikenaan odaanisan, Nenaboozhoon dash namadabinid ogii-onabi’aan.
Thereupon rising to his feet, the old man took his daughter by the hand, and where Nänabushu was seated he had her sit beside him.
Mii dash gaa-izhi-pazigwiid a’aw akiwenzii (and so, rising to his feet, that old man) ogii-saginikenaan odaanisan (took his daughter by the arm), Nenaboozhoon dash namadabinid ogii-onabi’aan (and where Nenaboozhoo sat he seated her beside him).
(32) Mī∙i∙dac kīkagī‘kạmāwāt īni’ᵘ udānisiwān wäwäni tciwī‘pimādisinit.
Mii dash gii-kagiikamaawaad iniw odaanisiwaan weweni ji-wii-bimaadizinid.
And then he charged his daughter that she live an upright life.
Mii dash gii-kagiikamaawaad iniw odaanisiwaan (and then they counselled their daughter) weweni ji-wii-bimaadizinid (that she should live well and uprightly).
(33) Mīdạc kā∙i∙jiwīsiniwāt.
Mii dash gaa-izhi-wiisiniwaad.
Thereupon they ate.
Mii dash gaa-izhi-wiisiniwaad (and so then they ate).
(34) Kā∙i∙ckwāwīsiniwāt kī‘kanōnā Nänabucō: “Ạmbä, pījāyu‘k ändāyāng, kayä kīnawā tcipi∙a∙yāyäg imā ōdä‘tōwād anicinābäg.”
Gaa-ishkwaa-wiisiniwaad gii-kanoonaa Nenaboozhoo: “Ambe, bi-izhaayog endaayaang, gaye giinawaa ji-pi-ayaayeg imaa oodetoowaad anishinaabeg.”
After they had eaten, then Nänabushu was told: “Now, do you come to where we live, so that you also may dwell yonder where the people have a town.” (10)
Gaa-ishkwaa-wiisiniwaad (after they had finished eating) gii-kanoonaa Nenaboozhoo (Nenaboozhoo was spoken to): “Ambe, bi-izhaayog endaayaang, (“come, come to where we live,) gaye giinawaa ji-pi-ayaayeg imaa (that you too may stay there) oodetoowaad anishinaabeg.” (where the people have a town.”)
(35) Mīdạc imā kīna∙ā∙ngạbit; mōjạgidạc kīnạndawändcigä, anōdc kägō uni‘tōn awäsīyaᵉ.
Mii dash imaa gii-na’aangabid; moozhag idash gii-nandawenjige, anooj gego onitoon awesiiyan.
And so there he lived with the people of his wife; and continually was he on the hunt for game, every kind of game he killed.
Mii dash imaa gii-na’aangabid (and so there he lived as a son-in-law); moozhag idash gii-nandawenjige (and constantly he hunted for game), anooj gego onitoon awesiiyan (all kinds of game animals he killed).
(36) Nānīngudinō upiwīdcīwān ma‘kwạn, mīdạc imā pānimā pitạgwicing ickwāndänk mī∙i∙mā nīwạnawāt.
Naaniingodinoo obi-wiijiiwaan makwan mii dash imaa baanimaa bi-dagwishing ishkwaandeng mii imaa niiwanawaad.
Frequently he came home in company with a bear, and not till he was come there at the doorway did he then lay it low with a club.
Naaniingodinoo obi-wiijiiwaan makwan (now and then he came home along with a bear) mii dash imaa baanimaa bi-dagwishing ishkwaandeng (and only when he had come there to the doorway) mii imaa niiwanawaad (did he there club it down).
(37) Wībadạcigu Nänabucu kīi‘kitu: “Wī‘kundiwin tci∙u∙jictcigātänig awäsīmīdcîm, mizisä gayä, ka‘kinagu ändaswäwānạgisiwāt, pinēwaᵉ gayä.”
Wiiba dash igo Nenaboozhoo gii-ikido: “Wiikondiwin ji-ozhichigaadenig awesii miijim, mizise gaye, gakina go endaswewaanagiziwaad, binewan gaye.”
So in a little while Nänabushu said: “A feast there shall be of game-food, and of turkeys, and of every kind of game there is, and of ruffed grouse.”
Wiiba dash igo Nenaboozhoo gii-ikido (so before long Nenaboozhoo said): “Wiikondiwin ji-ozhichigaadenig (“a feast shall be made) awesii miijim, mizise gaye, (of game-meat, and of turkeys too,) gakina go endaswewaanagiziwaad, binewan gaye.” (of every kind there is, and of ruffed grouse too.”)
(38) Mīdạc kā∙i∙ciwī‘kumindwa nībiwa anicinābäᵉg, i‘kwäwag kayä.
Mii dash gaa-izhi-wiikomindwaa niibiwa anishinaabeg, ikwewag gaye.
And so there were invited to the feast many men, women too.
Mii dash gaa-izhi-wiikomindwaa niibiwa anishinaabeg (and so many people were invited to the feast), ikwewag gaye (women too).
(39) Kā∙i∙ckwāwī‘kunding dạc mī∙i’∙ᵘ kā∙i∙ci∙u∙dạminowāt, pīpāgādowäwạg.
Gaa-ishkwaa-wiikonding dash mii iw gaa-izhi-odaminowaad, bi-paaga’adowewag.
And after the feast was over, then they played games, they came to play ball.
Gaa-ishkwaa-wiikonding dash (and after the feast was over) mii iw gaa-izhi-odaminowaad (then they played), bi-paaga’adowewag (they came to play ball).
(40) I‘kwäwạg kayä pa‘kān kīwạdạminōwạg, kīpapasi‘kawäwạg.
Ikwewag gaye bakaan gii-odaminowag, gii-papasikawewag.
The women too played a different game, they played the double-ball game.
Ikwewag gaye bakaan gii-odaminowag (the women too played a different game), gii-papasikawewag (they played the double-ball game).
(41) Mīdạc kā∙i∙‘kidunk: “Mīsa∙i’∙ᵘ Nänabucū uwīdigäwin nōngum wändci∙u∙dạminuwin.
Mii dash gaa-ikidong: “Mii sa iw Nenaboozhoo owiidigewin noongom wenji-odaminowin.
For it was said: “This is Nänabushu’s wedding, and that is why to-day we play.
Mii dash gaa-ikidong (for it was said): “Mii sa iw Nenaboozhoo owiidigewin (“this is Nenaboozhoo’s wedding) noongom wenji-odaminowin. (and that is why today we play.)
(42) Mī gädiciwäba‘k awīya käwīdigädin,” kī∙i∙‘kitowạg.
Mii ged-izhiwebak awiya ge-wiidigedin,” gii-ikidowag.
Thus shall it ever be when any one is married,” (so) they said. (11)
Mii ged-izhiwebak (this is the way it shall be) awiya ge-wiidigedin,” (whenever anyone marries,”) gii-ikidowag (they said).
(43) Mī∙i’∙ᵘ kayä wīnawā kā∙i∙citcigäwāt ạnicinābäᵉg awīya kāwīdigädin.
Mii iw gaye wiinawaa gaa-izhichigewaad anishinaabeg awiya gaa-wiidigedin.
Thus too have the people done whenever any one has married.
Mii iw gaye wiinawaa gaa-izhichigewaad anishinaabeg (and this is what the people too have done) awiya gaa-wiidigedin (whenever anyone has married).
(54) Nanabushu Marries
(1) Reference is to the menstrual lodge.
(2) Man is forbidden to enter a menstrual lodge; usually an old woman is about, who looks after the wants of the woman.
(3) A woman menstruating is to be avoided for the evil power she then is said to have.
(4) These excuses by the mother are only a formality. She really has more to say than the father, and could have given the answer then. It is a point not to appear too anxious, however willing one may be.
(5) This is given as the same little wigwam, but as a matter of fact it would be another into which the woman would go after her illness.
(6) All this is according to custom.
(7) At the back of the lodge, the proper place for a male visitor to sit where there is no male owner of the lodge.
(8) These words are purely formal, and have no meaning. a parent uses them, no matter how capable his daughter is, but he does not permit any one else to say the same thing of her.
(9) Another formal statement which serves to put the responsibility on the man.
(10) As a rule, a man and his wife do not go away at once to live by themselves; they live a while either with his parents or else with hers.
(11) The ceremony is always after the wedding.